We’ve managed to cross a few items off the wedding to-do list since my last update. Namely:
– I ordered the dress. I’d more or less chosen it a couple of months ago but wanted to be kind to my mummy and let her see it before I made a final decision. Actually, I probably would have got that one anyway but I still wanted to wait till she visited. I was psyching myself up for her famous half-hearted “hmmmm” that means “I think you’ve made entirely the wrong decision, and after scrunching up my nose and acting coy about telling you why, I’m going to tell you why”. But, it turned out, she loved the dress. So. Deposit down, dress ordered. It takes about four months and will need alterations after that as it’s going to be miles too long but I am calling that job done.
– We collected the rings. We’d decided to lay-by them, mostly to reduce the amount of time they would spend at our house before the big day. We both felt that the longer they were here, the greater the chance I would lose them. But a few weeks ago we got a letter from the jeweller that our lay-by period had expired and we had to pay it out. So we did, and the rings are now tucked away with other wedding-y things and I am trying not to think about them so I can resist the temptation to put mine on and, inevitably, lose it.
– we booked a photographer. This one has been really bothering me because all those helpful wedding sites say you need to book the photog early. Well, we had recommendations from a couple of friends and while one of the photographers came back quickly with a price and some samples, the other took ages to get back. We have decided to go with the second one even though she’s a little more expensive because she’s had lots of wedding experience and she’ll have an assistant with her on the day, which should make things more manageable. She’s the parent of a child at Hunter’s future school and I met her through playgroup. I’ve seen some of her work, but leigh hasn’t – but I booked anyway because I am like that. We’re going to her studio Sunday to have a look at some other weddings she has shot and to talk about what we want.
A few other things have come along a bit without actually being finalised. We visited a party hire shop last weekend to look at tables and glassware and linen, and we now have a fairly good idea about what we want. We’re still deciding how to set up the tables, and leigh is investing an impressive amount of time into looking at every decorating option on earth.
She’s also been trying out various table decoration ideas to see how they work so our house is full of different jars and vases and candles and lanterns and flowers and ribbons. Everything she makes looks elegant and professional so I think she should stop worrying about it.
Oh, and we’ve decided to invest a bit of money on the venue (aka our back yard). Much of our yard is concrete, and not very nice concrete at that. We’ve gone back and forth on whether to do anything with it and if so, what.
Paving’s really out of the budget since the area is so big. Ripping it up and planting gardens is tempting but it’s probably also too pricey, plus the kids love riding their bikes out there so it’s kind of good to have for now. We thought about just painting it for a quick and easy makeover.
In the end we’ve decided to go ahead with resurfacing. So it’s still going to be hard and flat, but it will also be smooth and terracotta-coloured.
It’s not cheap but not terribly expensive either, and we figured if we’d held the wedding at some fancy venue we could have easily spent that additional money and had nothing to show for it after all was said and done.
And speaking of fancy – my boss’s SIL came into work the other week showing off a magazine spread all about her wedding. She mentioned that the budget quoted in the mag was wrong but I got the impression it wasn’t wrong by much. Quoted budget? $85,000!!!
I can’t fathom spending that much on a wedding. Ours may cost a tenth of that, including our outfits and rings and everything else. Even spending that much feels like a big outlay to me. Maybe I am just stingy?